The J Way

Happy Birthday To Me!

2012-01-27T09:27:00.001-05:00

Happy Birthday to Me!

Make Miracles Everyday

2012-01-26T22:55:00.002-05:00

It's my Birthday Eve and I'm quite pleased. My first birthday in Boston is tomorrow!

Marianne Williamson's, A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles is blowing my $hit up; in a good way! Wow!

I'm on Chapter 6 now. Although the words and tone of the book are simple, the concepts and interpretations are immensely powerful. This is life-altering material if you allow it to be. As a new year of living goes down in my History Book, I embrace my Life being altered. The only way for me to go is up and forward.

"When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see him, you will see yourself. As you treat him, you will treat yourself. As you think of him, you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself."

Can we think about that? Can we sit and ponder for a moment? Think of the ways we are with people in our lives. The above is similar to the Golden Rule; a maxim which I strive to live by.

Marianne goes on to say:

In every relationship, in every moment, we teach either love or fear. "To teach is to demonstrate." As we demonstrate love towards others, we learn that we are lovable and we learn how to love more deeply. As we demonstrate fear or negativity, we learn self-condemnation and we learn to feel more frightened of life. We will always learn what we have chosen to teach ... If I chose to bless another person, I will always end up feeling more blessed. If I project guilt onto another person, I will always end up feeling more guilty.

This resonates with me. I can see this; I have seen it, and experienced it too. Each of us have at some point or another.

My eyes are opening and my renewed meditation is progressing. I'm living a new life, right here; right now. I retweeted this quote today: "To change one's life; Start immediately. Do it flamboyantly. No exceptions." —William James. That's all there is to it!

Near the end of Chapter 5 reads, "The Course says 'we think we have many different problems, but we only have one.' Denying love is the only problem, and embracing it is the only answer. Love heals all of our relationships—to money, the body, work, sex, death, ourselves, and one another. Through the miraculous power of pure love, we let go our past history in any area and begin again."

Can you feel this? It is potent! I am brimming with inspiration and openness to the abundance of my existence. "The past is over. It doesn't matter who we are, where we came from, what Mommy said, what Daddy said, what mistakes we made, what diseases we have, or how depressed we feel. The future can be reprogrammed in this moment. We don't need another seminar, another degree, another lifetime, or anyone's approval in order for this to happen ... There can be a new beginning, a life unlike the past."

As I celebrate another year on this Earth, I look forward to all the Light our future holds.

I Am Love,
J

Getting A Clearer Mind

2012-01-25T06:49:00.000-05:00

Good morning,

I meditated just over an hour ago, and feel good. Keeping my mind clear wasn't as easy as it used to be since I've been out of practice for so long, but it will become easier with time.

It comforts me to know I am on the right Path.

I Am Love,
J

Start Your Day Right With Marianne Williamson

2012-01-24T23:46:00.000-05:00

I stopped meditating for quite some time. I'd go back into it and drop it again. I meditated briefly this morning and am glad for it. I'm going to continue the practice and get my yoga on again. I am a Spiritual person, I forgot and lost my way, but have returned to My Path. What I feel is what I am, and what I am is Beautiful.

I Am Love,
J

A Return To Love

2012-01-24T22:58:00.000-05:00

I'm reading Marianne Williamson's, A Return To Love. I bought it at Rodney's Bookstore the same time I purchased this. What a great read thus far! I'm learning and thinking in new ways and it feels good. I need this.

I also need to Love myself more, which will allow me to share more Love with others. We all can do this. That is what we are here to do. It's all about Love. It really, really is. There is so much power in simplicity.

My initial exposure to Marianne came to me from someone I was once very close to. He gave her a glowing recommendation and now I understand why.

In case you're wondering, we're on decent terms, but not in communication (last time we spoke, there was a slight "don't call me, I'll call you" vibe). I still think highly of him and am grateful for the spiritual awakening he helped facilitate within me two years ago. It's okay, because in a way, on some level, there's still a Universal Love between us.

Connectivity

2012-01-24T22:10:00.000-05:00

So, I noticed I've not been posting much (I know, again). I've been going through another bout of being uninspired. I had a couple hard knocks and I didn't have much to say. I'm fine of course. I never stay down for long. I'm not just saying that, it's true. Anyway, I've been feeling good again and one way to maintain that is to write more here.

I made some changes (yes, again) to my social media presence. I was going back and forth about connecting my Twitter to Facebook; disconnecting and reconnecting them. I used to have my blog posts go to Twitter, which then went to my Facebook. After thinking about it, I chose to stop having my blog posts go to Twitter and reconnected my Twitter to my Facebook. Are you "following" me (geddit)? I took the links to my Twitter and blogs off my Facebook profile too.

The J Way isn't and never was a runaway hit. I don't blog about things that get Gawker-worthy attention. But that goes without saying. I connected my blogs to all those outlets because I wanted to gain exposure. That's not the point for me anymore. I also think I'll reveal more of my life here. I had more fun when I did that, which made me want to write more. Plus, spicing things up here will make it more interesting to read, yes? So, if I'm gonna dish on this and that, I don't want my FB friends (and family) having direct access to it. Yes, I know it's still out there to find, but I don't have to make it easier to find. Then again, I guess if anyone Googles me, all the attempts at mild subterfuge will be for naught.

People that read my blogs and follow my Twitter can find me here if they choose to. I'm not attached to the outcome or results so much anymore. I'm leaning to surrender, being controlling is too exhausting. I'm just going to let grace and goodness come to me the way they're meant to. I just want to write and document things in my Life now, plain and simple.

During G-chat with my friend Craig today, he told me about Psycards. I asked a question about a situation I'd like clarity and healing with. My answer is so on point!

withdrawal, protection, treasure, secrecy, shyness, introversion

This is a time for withdrawal, secrecy and the healing power of darkness. Caves can offer us protection and that is one reason we enter them. They offer a hiding place from the world outside where we can be alone. The Cave card reminds us that there are times in our lives when we need security, safety and we need to go back inside ourselves. This card is showing you the importance of reflection. If ideas, hopes or plans get to the outside world too early then they can become scorched or die. It’s important to nurse the precious things in life and keep them safe until the time is ripe.

When caves figure in myths and legends they are often the place where a hero or heroine will find the truth and discover their destiny. Treasures can also be found within their depths. You may need to cut yourself off from the world and those around you for a time in order to gain a clearer perspective. The situation is not as bleak as it might at first seem. Daylight and the outside world await your return but you must do it in your own time and at your own pace. Don’t let anyone or anything force you to emerge from the cave before you are ready. You will know when the time is right.

Happy Times In NYC

2012-01-24T01:24:00.003-05:00

I had a great time during my visit to New York this past weekend. I went for Melissa's birthday on Saturday and to catch up with Jessica; I stayed at her place. I enjoyed seeing Jessica's roommates, Jason and Luthien too. Jason's cats, Sam and Lola are precious.

I arrived Friday night; Jess and I went to dinner. We watched Downton Abbey and a few episodes of season two's QAF on Saturday. I knew Jess would like Downton once she saw it; and she did!

In the evening, I joined Melissa and friends of ours for dinner at Souen in Soho. Afterward, we went to a nearby bar. Good times.

Sunday, more Downton Abbey with Jessica before meeting Megan and Dan F. at Quantum Leap in Greenwich Village. They went with me to the Port Authority where I took my bus home. With a departure at 5pm and arrival in Boston around 8:40, we were way ahead of schedule! I think there was no traffic because of the big Sunday night football game. No complaints from me!

It was a very enjoyable trip; a pre-birthday treat to myself.

Bye for now,
J

Extraversion

2012-01-18T21:51:00.000-05:00

Wow, the results of this personality profile are spot on! I'm impressed.

Some days you want to hang out by yourself, not answer the phone, and make the world go away. The next day you e-mail everyone, schedule lunch with a friend, and try to find an evening gathering to take part in. It may be the phases of the moon, or something you ate; some days are just like that. In actuality, your desire to be with others or to be alone reflects something deep in your personality. Some of us are more comfortable by ourselves or with one or two friends, while others of us crave the crowd and can't stand it when the house is empty or the phone doesn't ring. The following paragraphs describe your fundamental desires about being with other people; whether you are generally an outgoing person or more reserved, if you seek adventures with others, if you tend toward assertiveness or kindness.

When it comes to Extraversion you are:

SOMETIMES OUTGOING, SOMETIMES RESERVED

Words That Describe You:

Moderate
Amiable
Laid-back

Temperate
Relaxed
Poised

Civil
Uncommitted
Pleasant

A General Description of How You Interact with Others

Lucky you! You enjoy your own company as much as you enjoy the company of others. You are a great conversationalist and thrive in the wonderful kinds of connections you know how to have with your family and friends. You also equally enjoy your own company, whether sitting in a favorite chair with your book and soft music playing or meandering in the woods by yourself. You like coming home to your family or your roommate; but if no one is home, you find quiet, solitary time to be just as pleasurable. What a great combination to enjoy being outgoing and to be just as comfortable being reserved. Lucky you!!

Because you are so amiable and relaxed, you are comfortable with almost any group of family or friends. Whether they are pumped up and lively or calm and subdued, you remain at ease. If someone needs to take over the conversation, you are comfortable taking the lead; you can also lay back and let someone else be in charge. If the conversation gets rowdy, your moderate demeanor will often draw it down to a more temperate level. If someone in the group loses their cool, you will most likely maintain your poise, and if they get nasty you know how to keep a civil tongue.

You may find yourself out of balance on occasion. If you're alone too much, you may need to get in touch with someone. If you spend too much time with your family and friends, you may need to sneak off for a day by yourself, to putter and read and clear your head of the noise of too much conversation. When you're at your best, you live with a rhythm of time with others, time alone, time with others, time alone It's a satisfying, comfortable balance. Lucky you!

Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You

You may occasionally run into problems with other people. Since not everyone is as balanced as you are, close friends and family may get frustrated with you, or you with them. They may be more sociable and outgoing, and find you too laid-back and relaxed. They want conversations to be lively and passionate while you keep things amiable and civil. Or others may be more quiet and reserved than you, and when you're in one of your more animated moments they may wish you would back off. You may be ready to put more energy into a conversation than they are comfortable with.

And your balance may be a problem. Other people may be consistently more sociable or more reserved than you, and find you to hard to read, some may even say you ride the fence. Others may find themselves envious of your ability to be outgoing at times, and at other times comfortably reserved. If you pay attention to pick up these cues you will be in a better position to know how you want to interact with such folks.

Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You

Most people will truly appreciate your flexibility in social situations. They will like you for your amiable warmth and your willingness to engage, and for your ability to sit back and let others take the lead or the spotlight. They will appreciate ways in which you temper what could become intemperate moments; by remaining poised and relaxed when others; temperatures are rising, you keep things civil and sane.

You are as good at listening and following as you are at talking and leading, and people will often appreciate your ability to adapt to the situation. Because you are sometimes outgoing and sometimes reserved, you will make most people comfortable in your presence, and they will truly enjoy your company.

Conscientiousness

2012-01-18T21:42:00.002-05:00

I'd say I am a conscientious person; I'm thoughtful and considerate. However, I wasn't too aware of how I manifested the following concepts until I read the descriptions of my results below. Personality profiles can be quite useful indeed.

It's a work day, breakfast is over, and you're dressed and ready. So how will you approach the tasks at hand? Some people work best with a clear schedule, a set of priorities and a due date for every step in the process. Others are, shall we say, less regimented. They approach a task with as much imagination as organization, and with a willingness to bend and modify in order to exercise some urge of creativity.

How about you? Do you walk in a straight line toward a clear goal, or are you more likely to dance your way down whatever path will get you wherever it is you're headed? The following paragraphs describe ways in which you approach the tasks life brings to you, and to what extent you are focused or flexible in how you choose to proceed.

Your approach toward your obligations is:

FOCUSED AND FLEXIBLE

Words That Describe You:

Casual
Informal
Compliant

Reliable
Organized
Solid

Dependable
Uncommitted
Genuine

A General Description of How You Interact with Others

When you take on a task at work or at home, you are reliable; you get the job done. In an organized way, you define the goal, lay out a plan, figure how long the task will take, and get to work "solid and dependable you".

But and this is important you're not a slave to the plan. You're committed to it, but not chained to it; the connection is more casual and informal. You know that sometimes "the best laid plans" fall off the tracks; when this happens, you clean up the train wreck and start over, undeterred.

Though not happening often, when plans change, you're okay with it. In fact, sometimes you change the plan. It's too nice of a Saturday to finish organizing the garage. Let's go for a bike ride instead. True, the next rainy Saturday will likely find you back in the garage, but for now the work can wait.

What an interesting combination of qualities in you're organized, but casual; solid, but compliant; and dependable, but informal. At home and at work, people know they can rely on you. You take great satisfaction in knowing that people think of you as disciplined and responsible, but you also know that you have something of a free spirit in you, and when this spirit moves you, off you go, following the impulse of the moment. You are rightly proud of your work ethic, but you also enjoy your willingness to lay the tools down, crank up the music and play like a child.

Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You

Some people live like Marines: duty-bound, disciplined and driven. To these people you might seem uncommitted; where they would never leave work for play or change plans in the middle of their life's forced march, you let the circumstance sway you and move in a different direction, and they don't understand.

Others live like kites on a string, attached by thin threads to the solid ground of responsibility and are blown about by every gust of impulse or imagination. To these people you might seem too cowardly, like you'll flirt with your impulses but never give in fully, play on a Saturday but never blow of the entire work-week to "follow your bliss".

While these Marines and kite-flyers might look down on you for your combination of focus and flexibility, others might be envious. They can't free themselves from a sense that they're not doing enough, or from the equally frustrating feeling that they're not free enough.

And here you are with your accomplishments and your pleasures, getting the job done but also getting your hair blown back as you run with the wind. As far as these people are concerned, you're lucky you've got the best of both of the worlds in which they feel they fail.

Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You

What a great life you have, and a great attitude to boot. You know when to buckle down and push ahead to get the job done, and you do it well. You know when to lay the tools of your trade aside, grab your kite and head for the meadow where you can run with the wind. Many people will see and admire in you this lovely combination of a person who can focus, but who is flexible enough to know when to let the spirit move you in some new and livelier direction.

It's a life they aspire to, and they delight in seeing it played out in your life. They may ask your advice and turn you into a mentor of the full and balanced experience. They will want to know how you do it, what the costs are, and if you get frightened that you're not working hard enough or playing often enough. They may make you think about your own life more than you have, so you can share it with those who want to emulate this balance between flexibility and focus. They may be correct lucky you!

Emotional Stability

2012-01-18T21:28:00.000-05:00

Here's another part of that personality profile I posted portions of earlier. This section covers my emotional stability.

We're born with the capacity to feel deeply, so it's as natural as breathing to experience a range of emotions. Fear and joy and sadness, anger and shame and disgust lie somewhere within each of us. Ah, but to what extent do we control these emotions, and to what extent do they control us? How you answer this question of how your emotions play out in your life has a great deal to do with your levels of personal satisfaction and with the character of your relationships with others. Do you manage your emotions well, keeping them in check with your thinking and your willpower, or are you someone who lets emotions have their way, giving in to the wild dance of feelings? The following paragraphs describe your emotional range in terms of being a person who is emotionally steady or someone who is responsive to whatever feelings swell up in you.

On Emotional Stability you are:

SOMETIMES STEADY, SOMETIMES RESPONSIVE

Words That Describe You:

Adaptable
Engaged
Able to Cope

Passionate
Perceptive
Flexible

Receptive
Aware
Avid

A General Description of Your Reactivity

In some ways, you've got the best of emotional worlds. When emotions rise up from inside you or are brought forth from a conversation by a friend, you know how to engage them. You deal with sadness, fear, joy, anger - whatever comes up - in ways that are perceptive and flexible. You can adapt to whatever level of emotion is appropriate to the moment. At other times, you are able to cope with your emotions in a more reserved manner. Because you are aware of what does and does not make emotional sense in a particular situation, you will decide when it is an appropriate time to express your emotions and when it would be best to keep them to yourself.

All of this gives you a rich emotional life. You are free to express your passions about certain subjects with appropriate people. But you are also emotionally adaptable; if the conversation needs to be more cerebral, you'll keep it "in your head" and talk calmly through whatever issue is on the table. This emotional awareness serves you well. You seldom get in over your head, either by opening up to the wrong person or by triggering in someone else's emotions they may not be able to deal with.

Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You

When it comes to dealing with emotions we all meet some people with whom we don't match well. You bring a balanced approach to your emotional life. As such, those who are at the extremes are most likely to have a negative reaction to you. Those who live in their emotions may feel you tend to "live in your head" while those who go through life as an emotional rock may feel that you are a bit too "touchy feely" for their approach.

And of course it is always possible that because you do balance your emotional approach to life you may misread others - we all do at times. So there have undoubtedly been those times when you have misread cues and stayed in your head with someone who hoped for a more open emotional approach or you may have opened up emotionally with someone who keeps their emotions bottled up. But these things happen and since you do have a good balance of being in touch with your emotions and not being overly impacted by emotional swings, you undoubtedly are able to adapt.

Another potential problem is that as people get to know you well, they will discover that you have a great balance between emotional expression and emotional control. If they don't have this balance they may wind up envying you. They can't express feelings as well as you, or they are too often out of emotional control and resent you for your ability to cope so well with the very emotions that may trip them up.

Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You

Many people will be grateful to find a friend like you who can stay in control when emotions verge on chaos, but who can also go into the tangle of emotions when it is safe and appropriate to do so. Because of your ability to engage them at whatever level they are comfortable, to adapt to whatever changes in emotion emerge in the conversation, and to cope so well with all of it - well, they'll be very glad they found a person like you. You may, in fact, wind up as something of an emotional mentor. Your awareness of the emotional temperature of a situation, your ability to adapt to either heat or cold, and your ability to cope with whatever winds up happening in the conversation could be models for them to follow as they come to terms with their own emotional worlds.

Checking Things Off the List

2012-01-17T18:06:00.000-05:00

I got things done today and managed to relax; worked on some projects, brainstormed, made travel plans and watched Y&R (in HD).

I finished E. Jean Carroll's book A Dog In Heat Is a Hot Dog: And Other Rules To Live By, made herbal tea and spent quality time with myself and my thoughts; just what I needed.

Oscar is such a sweet cat. He sits in my lap and follows me around the house. Sooo cuuute! I can tell from staying here Emily and Billy lead a charmed life indeed. I'll watch Oscar for them anytime!

I'm so glad to have this time in Cambridge. I have a clearer perspective and am thankful for the things I'm learning about myself.

Okay, I'm off to meet a friend at a coffee shop we like.

Bye for now,
J

Openness

2012-01-16T16:03:00.001-05:00

I consider myself an open person. I don't keep too much under wraps in my dealings with others. New ideas and experiences are generally welcome with me. I'm "open" to the varieties of life! Here are my results on my Openness.

How firmly committed are you to the ideas and beliefs that govern your thinking and guide your behavior? Some people trust their current ideas and beliefs the way a climber trusts the mountain; whichever way they move, whether the climb is on a familiar trail or over new ground, there is something solid beneath them, something they count on.

For others, new ideas, new solutions to old problems, new beliefs that replace tired convictions are like welcome wind in their sails. They can hardly wait to tack in a new direction and ride a new idea through uncharted waters. If it's new, it's interesting, and they're ready to explore.

The following paragraphs describe your responses to new ways of thinking and believing. How do you handle new information? Are you more like the climber on a familiar mountain or a sailor with a tiller in hand and a fresh breeze to propel you? How you integrate and process new information about the world and about others is a core aspect of your personality.

On the Openness Dimension you are:

SOMETIMES CURIOUS, SOMETIMES CONTENT

Words That Describe You:

Accepting
Flexible
Educated

Self-aware
Middle-of-the-road
Proper

Distinctive
Indecisive
Adaptable

A General Description of How You Approach New Information and Experiences

Like someone who can sleep comfortably on either side of the bed, you are equally at home with ideas and beliefs that you have held for a long time and with new ways of thinking and believing that grow out of your intellectual curiosity.

Your sense of who you are and what your place is in the world around you rests on values and principles that are the solid ground you walk upon. You've tested them, they work for you, and much of the time you are content to trust them, that is, until some provocative new idea slips in from a conversation, book or some flight of your active imagination. "Hmmmm. What's this. Never thought of it before." And off you go, exploring.

Since you love to learn, you've always been teachable; you absorb new information, which means you are well-educated in things that matter to you. Sometimes your intellectual exploring will lead you back to where you started; the "next new thing" proves too shallow or impractical to you. But once in a while a new idea or belief will dislodge you from the ground you've stood upon; it is so compelling and persuasive that you step away from the tried-and-true and embrace this notion that is brand new to you.

Because you hold both solid beliefs and are open to new ideas, you are accepting of other people and other ways of thinking and believing. You are flexible enough to listen to something new and different, or something outside of your comfort zone; if it works for you, you'll take it in, and if not, you'll let it go. In this sense, you know who you are: you are neither closed-minded nor wildly open-minded, but walk somewhere near the middle of the intellectual road.

Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward Your Style of Thinking

Not everyone will be thrilled by your flexible, middle-of-the-road ways of thinking and believing. A few people are so taken with flights of imagination into whatever is new that they might find your commitment to long-standing values and beliefs too confining, if not too boring. Oh well; so be it. They'll just have to be in free-flight without you.

Others are content with the ideas that have served them and their culture well; they're not excited by the prospect of moving on. And some people are afraid of new ways of thinking because they are somewhat fragile; they have trouble maintaining their current worlds and don't want someone like you, for instance pushing out the edges of their intellectual cosmos. So don't be surprised if your solid values sometimes make people distrust you as an explorer, or if your flexible and open mind sometimes gets you criticized by people who walk away from the very same explorations that you find refreshing.

Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You

Many others will find you trustworthy and therefore an attractive companion on the intellectual journey. They will appreciate the combination in you of open-mindedness and a commitment to the tried-and-true. In an intellectual climate sometimes dominated by the extremes of either wild innovation or dug-in traditionalism, your moderate views and your proper acceptance of a wide range of possibilities will be a distinctive and refreshing quality. Because you join your curiosity to strong foundational ideas and beliefs and practical solutions to problems, people will trust your occasional explorations into new territories to be reliable, and not "something new for newness sake".

You are accepting of others, flexible in your own intellectual commitments, well-informed in areas that matter to you, and comfortably aware of who you are and where you stand. This combination will make you a desirable companion on the intellectual journey for many, many people.

Agreeableness

2012-01-16T15:55:00.002-05:00

Here are the results of part of a personality profile questionnaire I recently completed. Some of it I already knew but there are also some things that I didn't realize, which may affect my interactions with others. I'll share other parts of the profile later.

This section of your profile describes your interactions with other people. The ways we communicate our feelings, beliefs and ideas to others are influenced by our cultural backgrounds, the way we were raised, and sometimes which side of the bed we got up on this morning. Some of us are very mindful of others making decisions we hope will be in their best interests, even if it means sometimes neglecting our own interests. Others of us believe each person should be responsible for themselves, taking deep pride in our own character and independence with a firm belief that others are best served by doing the same. The following describes how you engage with others; illustrating the dimension of your personality that determines your independence or your desire to reach out and touch others in meaningful ways.

You Are Best Described As:

CONSISTENTLY TAKING CARE OF OTHERS

Words That Describe You:

Sympathetic
Trusting
Altruistic

Selfless
Tenderhearted
Compassionate

Straightforward
Deferential
Generous

A General Description of How You Interact with Others

"What can I do for you?" These words probably feel very natural to you. More than most people, you are genuinely interested in the well-being of others. If they are in trouble, you offer compassion and go out of your way to be helpful. If they need someone who will listen, you are attentive, trustworthy and sympathetic. And you are direct with them; when they need advice or counsel, you offer it in as straightforward and direct a manner as you can.

There may even be times when you put others' needs in front of your own. And you do so without the expectation of some reward or recognition. Yours is a different kind of compassion; you are genuinely tenderhearted and take pleasure in helping others while expecting little or nothing in return. For you, it's not tit-for-tat, you truly want to do things for others that will better their lives. You mean it when you ask, "What can I do for you?"

Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You

Though your motives arise from genuine compassion, some people might think of you as "a little too good to be true." They could suspect that your kindness is something you use to ingratiate yourself with others or to get them to like you. Others may suspect that your altruism is a mask for your own problems; you take care of others but never let others get to know you well enough to offer you their care. Some of this suspicion may be genuine; they just can't believe you're this kind. But it may also be triggered by envy; people see in you a tenderheartedness they don't find in themselves, and it makes them uncomfortable so they take it out on you with their suspicions.

Another critical response others may have may be something you want to take a serious look at. If you spend your time taking care of others, you may not have enough left to take very good care of yourself. If you're always asking, "What can I do for you?", you may not focus enough on your own needs. You're so busy taking care of others that you neglect yourself and empty your reserves of energy and good health. Like we said, give it consideration and if it doesn't fit move on.

Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You

For the most part, people will feel gifted to come across someone like you. For those you help, you will be light in the darkness, a hand up when they've fallen into a ditch. Your true graciousness and selflessness is rather rare these days and is often a breath of fresh air in this all too often dog-eat-dog world. Others will see in you the kindness that each of us seeks in life, both in our own characters and in our relationships with others. And you will become a model of that honest compassion; someone others may even look up to. Hopefully that feels okay to you.

We're Golden!

2012-01-15T22:18:00.001-05:00

I'm happy to say I'm content and relaxed on the couch with Oscar as I watch the 69th Annual Golden Globe Awards. Hope you're enjoying the show (and reading the funny tweets on Twitter #GoldenGlobes). I thought I'd have more to say, but I don't.

Ciao for now,
J

Living In Cambridge With Oscar!

2012-01-15T00:28:00.001-05:00

Oscar is such a good kitty-kitty. I'm cat and house-sitting this week for Emily and Billy while they vacation in Mexico. Living in Cambridge is FUN!

Oh, here comes Oscar now. He's a very social cat and likes to sit in my lap while I watch TV. SNL is on now. Daniel Radcliffe (he's a qt) is hosting.

It's great living in Cambridge; I feel like I'm on a mini-vacation. Emily and Billy have a lovely home and the fact I can walk to work from here is icing on the cake.

I just made a lil' video of Oscar chillaxin' on my tummy. I'm posting it on FB.

G'night,
J

Windy Weather Here!

2012-01-13T21:30:00.003-05:00

It is really windy in Boston today! I feel the winds striking the house. Well, weather extremes of any sort always remind me of my fave member of the X-Men, Storm; one of Marvel's most powerful and famous characters! Her eyes turn white when activating and using her weather control powers.

Affirmations Of Life, Love & Pleasures

2012-01-13T21:10:00.001-05:00

The J Way is an extension of Me. It's my Life and I continue to share it with all, from those with a passing interest, to others reading most or all my updates on this personal forum. A forum that is my sole Realm, one of the seats of Power I occupy in this World.

You know I get pensive; I have those contemplative moments and think about what makes me, what brakes me and what awakes me. You know I like to rhyme and play with words. Communication is my forte, one of my strongest attributes. Whether I say a little or a lot, regardless if you agree or not, it's generally worth listening to. Not only because I am the source, but because ALL perspectives have value in some way, shape or form.

"Wise," "old soul" and "good energy" are words others often use to describe me. I'm deep; I'm sensitive, spiritual, intuitive and full of Love. I love people, plants and animals. "A friend to the World," is one of the highest compliments I've ever received. I am mystical with an affinity for magic and the supernatural (both real and perceived, whatever that means), the subtleties of this World and Universal Truths we cannot ignore or escape.

Emotionally, though I wound easily, I heal remarkably fast. I don't dwell on the negative, always in search of a silver lining, I move forward. Onward and upward! It is my nature and I am grateful for my resilience; it helps me through difficult times.

I appreciate and believe in Beauty of all forms. I am thankful to the Creator for blessing me with my own inner allure coupled with unique pulchritude.

Though I sing these praises bestowed upon me both by others and myself, I must acknowledge my flaws and shortcomings; both within and without. Just as the physical shell I am gifted in this Life, I have imperfections. I have sustained damages and am left with scars, visible upon my flesh and hidden within my heart. They tell my story (even when I sometimes don't want it told).

I can be bitter, cold, distant and sometimes exhibit many other negative traits. I am a mortal human (though at times I don't like to admit it). But I snap out of the negativity, or sometimes gradually restore my balance. What is Light without Dark? Though I do not continually dwell within the darkness, I choose a return to the light with a deeper appreciation and acknowledgement of myself and others. Sure, I rant and rave, gripe and complain, but ultimately I return to myself. When I do, I am renewed.

Down to the very molecules that comprise the fibers of my being, I am grateful, because in all that has existed in the Past, is in Present and will be in the Future, there will never be another me. The same applies to you, too, Dear Readers, Family, Friends and Lovers who have been and are a part of Me. I thank you.

This commercial is one of my favorites (and as I have posted it before, I'm sure I shall again). I enjoy its message with the imagery and music. I do take pleasure in the little things. I want the same for all of you. I truly do.

Cambridge Cat-Sitting Vacation

2012-01-12T23:24:00.000-05:00

Busy day at work; it was chock full of meetings. They were productive meetings, so I'm interested to see what develops as a result.

After work, I walked over to Billy & Emily's. Billy made a delish soup for dinner; Emily had an audition, but came back later.

I'm cat-sitting for them this weekend until next weekend (picked up the the keys, tonight too). I'm excited! Oscar is a sweetie kitty, and it'll be like a vacation since I'm living in Cambridge next week. I can walk to work and hang out in a different area of the city! Fabu!

I watched the newest episode of The Vampire Diaries at their house tonight. They'd never seen it before, but I could tell they were somewhat entertained. I explained some of the backstory to them.

Then we watched The Office and I stayed for part of Up All Night before starting to doze off (a glass of red wine at dinner and two glasses of Prosecco afterward made me drowsy). Billy graciously offered to drive me home. Thank you, Billy!

I'm in bed now and will drift off soon after chatting on the phone with Jessica. G'night!

More Devilishly Funny Audibles

2012-01-11T00:48:00.000-05:00

If you're uncharacteristically amused by sounds from The Exorcist too (or just curious), here's a soundboard with many of the clips that crack me up.

When you're there, listen to some of my faves:

*crazy laugh*

day for an exorcism

Help an old altar boy

French

It burns!

Another Day of Laughs

2012-01-10T23:59:00.000-05:00

I had a laughter-filled day. In the office, at Gordon's house and at Trivia Night, at various points throughout the entire day, I was caught in the quivering bliss of laughter. It amazes me how how good laughing feels.

That reminded me of a film scene that makes me laugh every time I see it. In this clip from The Exorcist, hearing that laughter makes me burst into a guffaw without fail every time. Am I crazy? Of course. But that makes me all the move loveable.

Loving My Daytime & Primetime Dramas

2012-01-09T20:22:00.001-05:00

With this overpowering "hunger" for more and more of The Vampire Diaries (I'm still catching up on season 3), I've neglected my first TV drama love, Y&R. But that's a love which can never die. So, now I have a week's worth of episodes to catch up on. Before I do, I'll watch another episode of TVD...

In this December 2010 Y&R clip, we see Jill (my favorite character), Lauren and her husband Michael having a chuckle after Jill and her new beau, Colin, get caught mid-romp in the office. See? Daytime dramas have some laughter too.

Field-Trip & "Family Dinner" Fun

2012-01-08T23:27:00.000-05:00

I'm glad to report I did not stay home all day watching more of The Vampire Diaries. I went on a lil' field trip on the Red Line and arbitrarily chose to exit at the Savin Hill station. Why? I dunno. I wasn't aware that's a not-so-good part of town. It didn't seem dangerous, but I've been made aware it's not one of the crown jewels of Boston neighborhoods either. I walked down a street and shortly thereafter made my way back and took the train to Harvard Square.

Katie called and picked me up around noon outside the Harvard Book Store to join her in shopping for Family Dinner (a Sunday routine she and her friends all partake in, and I'm now a part of). We went to Whole Foods in Cambridge where I picked up some olives to contribute as one of the appetizers for dinner and we bought some stuff to eat lunch.

Back at her place, I helped out in prepping for the meal and played with Jessica's cutie honey little Chihuahua, Matilda. Jessica cracks me up and she insisted I see the first episode of the show Shameless. It was crazy, but managed to be entertaining.

Tim, Will, Billy, Emily & Mike were all in attendance for a tasty meal with friendship and laughter.

TVD: It's So On

2012-01-07T22:42:00.002-05:00

I happily finished season two of The Vampire Diaries (aka TVD) today. I am so into this show! It's a full-blown-rabid-I-need-a-hit-baby-gimme-it obsession!

One of the story arcs I've enjoyed following is the angst between Caroline and Matt. They're really cute together and despite all the obstacles and setbacks (she's a vampire and he's human), you want them to work things out (if only that really worked in everyday life).

Youtube won't allow scenes I want to share to be posted elsewhere, but the link above is one of the clips I like.

Since we don't have cable, I won't be able to catch season three episodes on TV and they won't be on Netflix for a while. Thankfully, I can easily watch on the CW web site!

Full Deck

2012-01-07T20:00:00.004-05:00

I did my first Tarot card reading for another person last night (over Google video chat).

It was unexpected, since I didn't plan to give readings until my skills improved. But I won't improve if I don't make the effort, right? So, throwing caution to the wind, and to my friend, I went on and did it. After all, he requested I do it for him. I'm satisfied with the result, considering the circumstances. My friend learned a few things and appreciated the effort too.

I'm going to study them more today and consult my books for more information.

Return To Tarot

2012-01-05T22:36:00.001-05:00

This is the Tarot deck I have

Last night, after searching through boxes in the basement, I found them. They're a tool I think I can use right now, for guidance, information and a little fun. With my considerable intuitive faculties, I've always been drawn to mysticism, magic and fantasy. I embrace things allowing me to access otherworldly energies and alternative ways of thinking. What I found are my Tarot cards...

I've had readings done before and enjoyed them. My friend Stacey (a real darling) gave me an excellent one shortly before I moved to Boston and the card's message rang true (Thank You!). I've even done some readings for myself, but it's been a while. The one I do tonight will be the first this year and since I left NYC.

I like to journal my readings, so I can refer back to them later if necessary. It also helps me grow and become more skillful with the cards. When I get better, perhaps I'll work the cards and do a reading for you...

There are many transitions in process. I cannot pinpoint exactly what's going on. If I had that kind of power, I'd be doing something else at this moment. But I can say changes are afoot for me on more than one level. I like change. I'm going through an inner transformation this very moment and I think the Tarot will aid me.

With sparkles,
J

P.S. Don't worry, I'm not gonna go all dark and stormy with the magicks. I have no intention of ending up like Amy's mom, Catherine. #helltotheno

Take A Bite!

2012-01-05T22:02:00.000-05:00

I'm loving the hell outta The Vampire Diaries. It's a well-scripted show with actors I enjoy. The story lines intrigue me with layers and rich sub-plots. This isn't a guilty pleasure; it's a damn good show.

Bonnie is still my fave, but I like all the characters. I'm progressing nicely through season two.

All this supernatural stuff has me excited. I haven't been this amped for a show since my Buffy days!

My Vision Is As Sharp As My Bite!

2012-01-05T22:00:00.000-05:00

I'm pleased to report my medical appointments went well today. Better than expected, even. My eye exam was at 10am and my dental check up followed at 11am.

I believe I had the most thorough eye exam of my life today. The assistant and doctor were both so gracious, kind and answered all my questions. I'm completely impressed. I even got to see pictures of my retinas.

The only thing that they expressed some concern over is the fact my optic nerves are roughly 10% larger than average. Normally, such a thing could lead to treatment of some sort, but here's the catch: My surrounding tissues and blood vessels are all healthy, vibrant and no sign of inflammation; on top of that my vision is excellent. They're going to keep an eye on this (couldn't resist saying that) as I get older, but for now it's fine.

I wonder why my optic nerves are larger than normal? I thought maybe I'm a mutant, but didn't say anything.

My dental exam and cleaning went well too. I was almost certain they'd tell me I have a cavity, since I've experienced some sensitivity to heat and cold on one of my upper right molars over the last week or so. But nope; no cavities! They told me my bones and anatomy are good; my teeth and gums are healthy. I'm glad!

I'm Team Bonnie!

2012-01-02T21:25:00.000-05:00

I spent the second day of 2012 at home. My season one marathon of The Vampire Diaries continues. Bonnie Bennett is my favorite character thus far. Team Bonnie!

Bent: "Magic Love"

2012-01-02T04:05:00.000-05:00

Regardless of what anyone says or thinks, from the core of my Heart I am an immensely giving soul. After all, sharing is caring...

I like this simple song with a catchy beat. The message in the video is nice too.

"If You Throw Shade..."

2012-01-02T04:00:00.000-05:00

Now the second day of 2012 is here (well, in my time zone anyway). I feel confident in the present moment as I compose this entry. I also don't feel like taking any bullshit anymore.

Like the rest of us, I'm sometimes fraught with confusion and insecurities about something or other related to how I look, feel, what I perceive and my thoughts on other's opinions of me. I'm human and flawed, but despite any shortcomings, I am in a league all my own. I'm not dwelling on negativity. That's a waste time. Other's opinions of me don't make me. I make me.

Some are not going to like me no matter what do or don't do, say or don't say; blah, blah butt crack. Even if I could do everything right all the time, people will still find fault. I can't please everyone, but I damn sure can please myself; I'm who I have to live for.

For different reasons I care not to get into (but could if I were in a bitch-fit mood), there are some that aren't communicating with me. Have I made efforts to repair things? Yes, of course. Is it up to me alone to make whatever is wrong go away (assuming I know what's wrong)? No. The actions, or lack thereof, from others says more about them.

In some cases, people just grow apart and that's that. Other times, they just don't want to do the work to keep any connection alive. I accept that now. Negligence on another's part does not make me a bad person, does not mean I'm not worthy. What matters is me. I have to look out for mySELF.

I've censored my words and avoided saying what's really on my mind far too often because I didn't want to look bad, say the wrong thing or cause trouble. Of course, I'll maintain my diplomacy and tact as I deem necessary. But as one of my most quoted adages says: "If you throw shade, you're gonna get the blade." I will cut out what isn't working to make room for things that allow growth in my life. Save the haterade for someone else. I am phenomenal and deserve the top shelf!

**Despite the rant, I am quite content with myself right now. Just needed to share this.

Muah,
J

Love That E. Jean Carroll!

2012-01-01T23:59:00.002-05:00

I was thrilled to find and buy one of E. Jean Carroll's books I found today. I tweeted about it:

@ejeancarroll Look what I just happened to find and plan to purchase now. Happy 2012, you beacon of fabulosity!pic.twitter.com/5lPB3kZC

She favorited it on Twitter!

A Wonderful Start!

2012-01-01T23:54:00.003-05:00

Happy 2012, everyone!!! Here's to another wonderful year of living, laughing and loving. Those are things I will have plenty of for sure.

As the first day of the year draws to a conclusion and I sit at my kitchen table with my freshly made apple-cucumber-ginger juice (it's good, don't hate), I'm so very pleased with how last year ended and this one began. I am truly blessed and am grateful. A recap:

Fun lil' party (around 20 or so peeps attended) at gal-pal Katie's in Somerville last night with her oh-so-cute boyfriend, Tim. I made new friends too. Katie's roommate Jessica adores me along with their friend Emily. After talking and playing cards with for about half an hour, Emily invited me to join her (and Jessica) on a trip to Las Vegas next month. I love it when people I just meet at parties like me so much they want to travel with me! It happened in 2008 when I met Greg at the end of May, and went to Canada with him in June.

We brought in the new year with cheers and all that stuff you did at your respective parties too. I hung out for some time with the guests (most of whom were playing drinking games; as shown) before making my way home.

Today, I lounged about and luxuriated on the couch watching The Vampire Diaries. Um, this is good $hit. I saw one episode of season two I think some months ago on TV. I don't remember where, I think I was dog-sitting at someone's house or something. Anyway, I liked it, but I don't watch TV, nor do I have cable so I didn't see anymore after that. Thanks to our Apple TV and Netflix, I'm midway through the first season of the series.

Now, it goes without saying: I like Ian Somerhalder (Damon); I have admired him since his appearance in The Rules of Attraction (maybe even before that, but I can't remember, nor do I care enough to attempt at this point). As a smoldering Sagittarius, Ian is sex on legs. He's an enjoyable villain on the show. I'd gladly allow him to take a bite outta me and come back for more!

Paul Wesley (Stefan) is not bad either, but where he really excels is from the neck down. Abs of Death! Whaaaat?!

So, after watching hours of that, I did manage to do some other things, but not much. I'm in research mode for a big project I'm working on. No details until it's complete. For now, it's still a work in progress.

This evening, I went to Family Dinner. They're dinner gatherings at different houses on Sunday nights. Katie invited me to one at Billy's house when I was still new in town last summer. Thanks to Katie, my network of friends continues to grow. I heart Katie!!! (Oh, she has a great blog too!) Tonight's dinner was at Emily Z's. and Mike's house, both of whom attended last night's NYE party. I enjoyed ending the year with Katie & Co. and having my first dinner of 2012 with her, Tim, Emily Z. & Mike too!

2012 is off to a wonderful start and I know things will only get better!

Choosing Choices

2011-12-30T23:29:00.000-05:00

Just finished watching "Chosen," the final episode in the entire series from one of my all time fave shows, Buffy the Vampire Slayer. I thought it was appropriate as I conclude the year. 2011 was the year of many conclusions for me on more levels than I care to count. But just as this episode's title, I am also chosen.

What for? That is yet to be determined. I have a mission in this life, though I do not fully know what it is, I will live to see what is to become of me.

I am rich; not in the material sense, but spiritually. I can fuel the suns of countless galaxies with all that is within me. My power, passion for life and will are indeed supernatural. I am on a different frequency, a higher octave of sorts. I embrace transformation, change, growth, renewal and all that come with it.

You see, I know I've made mistakes, exercised poor judgement, been too vulnerable and foolish before. Moving forward is what I know how to do, because looking back only slows me down. It's high time I get on the fast track. I choose to know better, do better and be better.

Love Spreads

2011-12-26T23:59:00.000-05:00

I feel great. I realize I am truly blessed and living a life I love. My inner light is shining a bit brighter than before. As 2011 draws to a close, I am making peace with the ups and downs as the 365th day approaches.

A contributing factor in all this is my cleanse. No, I'm not doing the Master Cleanse again (maybe in spring/summer 2012), but I have been ingesting unprocessed fresh foods since Friday. In the past 96 hours of my holiday hiatus, I've adjusted my eating habits. Primarily, it's been salads, fresh juices, fruits, herbal tea and healthy snacks. What starts within flows outward; I embrace myself and all my imperfections. Acceptance is key and sets me free. Slight changes within are coming to the surface, like a buoyancy of spirit, serene sensations and a comforting clarity of mind. This is a prelude to more sunlit horizons.

I've done this before, for a prolonged period and it was truly amazing. I'm transforming again, reinventing the person I am and transcending my former self. I intend to harness the powers I have to enhance my world and the lives of those I affect in any way. From family and dearest friends to strangers and everyday people, the love spreads...

amo "Io sono l'amore"

2011-12-25T21:59:00.000-05:00

I watched I Am Love (Io sono l'amore in Italian) again yesterday for the third time. It was my first time not seeing it in the theater (thanks, Netflix). I love that film. The music, the scenery, the story and the love are so touching. I bought the soundtrack yesterday, too and listened to it on the walk to Whole Foods for goodies.

Admittedly, I noticed it's impact slightly subdued from lack of the big screen and audio only a movie theater can provide. However, I was still reduced to tears as I was the first two times I viewed it. My interest in learning Italian is also reinvigorated.

Tilda Swinton is unquestionably one of my most favorite actresses. The woman knows how to bring it in all her performances with a captivating grace all her own.

"Help Me Obi Wan Kenobi, You're My Only Hope..."

2011-12-25T21:55:00.000-05:00

We're watching Star Wars. I can't remember the last time I saw it. R2-D2 is so cute; he's always been one of my faves. There are many things I forgot about in this movie.

A special someone from my past worshiped this franchise. He'd be glad to know I'm watching it now...

Elevator Blues

2011-12-18T19:00:00.000-05:00

So, this morning it happened again: I was trapped in the same elevator in my office building. The first time was a couple months ago. It was under repairs again last week, so I thought it would be fine. WRONG. It jangled andclanged at the fourth floor and the doors wouldn't open; I sent it back down tothe first floor and it rattled and clanged more. The doors did not open.
On top of that, my friend and coworker, Gordon, was also trapped in it a month or so ago. Yesterday, he and I both took it with Dan; there was NO problem. So, of course this morning when I'm alone in there I get stuck. I was more upset and frustrated this time than I was the last time.

Plus, when the two emergency respondents showed up, they got on my damn nerves. One told me to pry the doors openmyself. I did so. When we got it open, he said, “That’s all you had to do… The next time you’restuck, you’ll know what to do.” Excuse me? I have to get myselfout IF it happens again? I don’t believe it safe or advisable to attemptto exit a repeatedly dysfunctional elevator all on my own. This guy tried to debate with me about it—I was livid. This situation shouldn't occur inthe first place (OR second) and I will never use that elevatoragain. #forrealthistime

Anyway, during my entrapment, I made some phone calls to people I need to have conversations with; people important to me. One of them being my mom. I dunno if she received my message yet. I suppose not since she hasn't returned my call. The same goes for the few close friends I called and left messages with. Glad it wasn't a serious situation bringing about my most untimely death; it'd be a shame to have my last moments on this planet met with a voice mail greeting. And the recipient(s) hearing my last recorded words in their voice mail would be highly displeased I'm sure. I would have made more calls, but those dudes that got me outta there arrived before I could hit my speed dial (I don't have speed dial set up yet, it just sounded good for effect).

That's why I made calls. We take life for granted every day and forget to appreciate who we are and what we have. If you have something to say, say it. If you have something to do, do it. Your time here in this realm is limited and there's no use letting life just slip on by without creating meaning and making the most of it all. That's what I learned today, damn it...

Skippin'

2011-12-11T00:00:00.000-05:00

I'm loving the band Bent. I feel like skipping through the woods to this tune. Well, skipping with a heavy coat, gloves, hat, layers underneath and long johns to boot!

But it's late, so I'm skippin' off to bed for now. G'night...

Newness All Around

2011-12-09T12:40:00.001-05:00

I've been away for a while (again). Don't think for a moment I've forgotten you. I haven't. I couldn't. I wouldn't.

It's all about the new. Everything related to new developments, new ideas and new people. Moving forward in a positive way, learning and growing, these are the gifts I gladly accept as my life unfolds and I become the person I am to be.

There are changes on the horizon in the office and that's all I can say about that; I don't blog about work directly, but I don't mind alluding to knowing and observing things there (even the things they don't think I know).

I made a glamourous new discovery today too. I wrote about it here.

Lately, I've had lots of ideas on living better, decorating, entertaining, shopping and of course romance. I generally see the world through rose colored glasses anyway. Yet, as I told a friend yesterday, I have flights of fancy with my feet on the ground. I'm such a dreamer, but I'll have to put thought into action if those dreams have any hope of ever becoming reality.

I'm also enjoying the company of someone new, and from what I've seen, potentially very special. Is it too soon to discuss here? Perhaps. I don't want to get ahead of myself, but things are going well and I value the importance of living in the present. Well, presently, I'm quite pleased and impressed with this person. I can confidently say I am a catch and it's thrilling to be 'caught' by someone so catch-worthy too! *wink*

Love Those Rochefort Girls!

2011-11-26T20:57:00.001-05:00

My newest obsession: Les demoiselles de Rochefort (The Young Girls of Rochefort). I'm not normally one for musicals, perhaps the French makes it more intriguing; I love this film! The music, singing dancing, romance and joie de vivre are magnifique!

DELPHINE et SOLANGE
Nous sommes deux soeurs jumelles
Nées sous le signe des gémeaux
Mi fa sol la mi ré, ré mi fa sol sol sol ré do
Toutes deux demoiselles
Ayant eu des amants très tôt
Mi fa sol la mi ré, ré mi fa sol sol sol ré do

DELPHINE
Nous fûmes toutes deux élevées par Maman
Qui pour nous se priva, travailla vaillamment

SOLANGE
Elle voulait de nous faire des érudites
Et pour cela vendit toute sa vie des frites.

DELPHINE et SOLANGE
Nous sommes toutes deux nées de père inconnu
Cela ne se voit pas, mais quand nous sommes nues
Nous avons toutes deux au creux des reins
C'est fou...

DELPHINE
... là un grain de beauté...

SOLANGE
... qu'il avait sur la joue

DELPHINE et SOLANGE
Nous sommes deux soeurs jumelles, nées sous le signe des gémeaux
Mi fa sol la mi ré, ré mi fa sol sol sol ré do
Aimant la ritournelle, les calembours et les bons mots
Mi fa sol la mi ré, ré mi fa sol sol sol rédo.

DELPHINE
Nous sommes toutes deux joyeuses et ingénues...

SOLANGE
... attendant de l'amour ce qu'il est convenu...

DELPHINE
... d'appeler coup de foudre...

SOLANGE
... ou sauvage passion...

DELPHINE et SOLANGE
... nous sommes toutes deux prêtes à perdre raison
Nous avons toutes deux une âme délicate

DELPHINE
Artistes passionnées...

SOLANGE
... musiciennes...

DELPHINE
... acrobates...

SOLANGE
... cherchant un homme bon...

DELPHINE
... cherchant un homme beau...

DELPHINE et SOLANGE
... bref un homme idéal, avec ou sans défauts
Nous sommes deux soeurs jumelles, nées sous le signe des gémeaux
Mi fa sol la mi ré, ré mi fa sol sol sol ré do
Du plomb dans la cervelle, de la fantaisie à gogo
Mi fa sol la mi ré, ré mi fa sol sol sol ré do

SOLANGE
Je n'enseignerai pas toujours l'art de l'arpège
J'ai vécu jusqu'ici de leçons de solfège
Mais j'en ai jusque-là, la province m'ennuit
Je veux vivre à présent de mon art à Paris.

DELPHINE
Je n'enseignerai pas toute ma vie la danse
A Paris moi aussi je tenterai ma chance
Pourquoi passer mon temps à enseigner des pas
Alors que j'ai envie d'aller à l'opéra

DELPHINE et SOLANGE
Nous sommes deux soeurs jumelles, nées sous le signe des gémeaux
Mi fa sol la mi ré, ré mi fa sol sol sol ré do
Deux coeurs, quatre prunelles, à embarquer allegreto
Mi fa sol la mi ré, ré mi fa sol sol sol ré do

DELPHINE
Oh ! Midi moins le quart. Cà y est, je suis en retard.

SOLANGE
Delphine !

DELPHINE
Oui.

SOLANGE
Tu vas chercher Boubou ?

DELPHINE
Oh tu peux pas y aller ?

SOLANGE
J'irai cet après-midi.

DELPHINE
J'peux pas sortir avec ça ! Oh puis si. Oh puis non. J'ai rendez-vous à midi
avec Guillaume, je n'y serai jamais.

SOLANGE
Qu'est-ce qu'il veut encore celui-là ?

DELPHINE
Je ne sais pas... me voir.

SOLANGE
Oh bien il attendra. Tu rentres déjeuner ?

DELPHINE
Oui. Mais pas avant une heure. Qu'est-ce que j'ai fait de mon poudrier ? Ah
non je l'ai.

DELPHINE et SOLANGE
Jouant du violoncelle, de la trompette ou du banjo
Aimant la ritournelle, les calembours et les bons mots
Du plomb dans la cervelle, de la fantaisie à gogo
Nous sommes soeurs jumelles, nées sous le signe des gémeaux

SOLANGE
Au revoir.

DELPHINE
Au revoir.

Siri Argument

2011-11-17T00:35:00.000-05:00

Smart-phones, gotta love 'em. Speaking of love, looks like it might be lost with this couple. * Explicit language; NSFW*

Liking the husband's mouth and hands. #yum...

Customize Your Baby?

2011-11-17T00:30:00.000-05:00

Tuesday night, I joined Allison, Brooke and Hannah for a free presentation at the Museum of Science; it was my first visit. Here's an overview of the lecture:

Custom BabiesTuesday, November 15; 7:00 p.m.New reproductive technologies allow parents to choose the sex of their baby or to test for genetic disorders as part of in vitro fertilization. Should parents have the ability to learn the genetic sequence of their future child? What kinds of decisions might be based upon that information? Discuss with others where the possibilities for genetic engineering might take us.

After Hazel Sive spoke on technology, harvesting and embryos, George Annas discussed the ethics, morality and social impact of said technologies. During the second half of the evening, within each group we enjoyed constructive conversations about life, society and health. At the conclusion of the presentation, anonymous text message voting on questions relating to testing, access and risks showed us an interesting collection of the "yes," "no," and "not sure" responses from us.

Personally, I am not in favor of tampering with genetics for customization purposes. Natures works in its own way and time. Part of all the prevalent problems with society today stem from its severe deviation natural foods into the underworld of the Standard American Diet (SAD). As two thirds of all chronic illnesses are preventable through diet and lifestyle, it's no wonder the gene pool becomes more and more and more tainted. This of course leads to a heavier and heavier and more substantial reliance on drugs, medication and quick fixes that mask the underlying issue instead of preventing or eliminating the inflammatory substances that degrade our health and wellness with each subsequent generation.

It was a larger time investment than I anticipated (two and a half hours, so I was late for trivia night), but I enjoyed the event and am glad I attended. I look forward to visiting the museum again to see the featured exhibits.

Mo-ing It Up

2011-11-10T01:57:00.000-05:00

I'm getting comments about my mustache at work. I can't believe I agreed to do this, but I'm for bringing awareness to good causes like Movember. I've never grown a mustache before, so this is a new experience for me.

"Mo" is Aussie slang for mustache. Also, according to the Urban Dictionary:

The term "mo" has gained notoriety and been propelled to international fame by the Movember movement.

Originated in Australia, Movember is an annual campaign to raise money for mens' health issues; notably prostate cancer and testicular cancer. Every year men across the globe begin November 1 with a clean shaven face and spend the month growing and grooming a mustache in an effort to raise awareness, and money.

Dude, check out that hideous Mo on school janitor.

Well hello, Andy...

In the USA, "'Mo" is also slang for something else:
"Short for homo, which is short for homosexual. My roommate Andy is a huge mo."

If you'd like to show some support, please click here. Me and my 'mo' will appreciate it!

O.M.G.A.Y.F.R.?

2011-11-10T01:26:00.000-05:00

= Oh My Gawd, Are You For Real?

Don't mean to throw grease at this on the chance there is legitimacy to the story I heard yesterday from Brooke about the straight rugby player that had a stroke and awoke gay, becoming a hairdresser. But while researching it, I found this playfully captioned photo about the guy (yes, that's him) and it made me giggle.

Hey, whatever works. If he's happy with his life now—ditching rugby balls for blow dryers—good for him; if it took a stroke to make that possible, there's the silver lining. Sometimes truth IS stranger than fiction.

Of course the haters and inhumaners will think him better off not surviving the stroke, but whatevs: #hatersareeverywhere.

Speaking of haters, I was on the way to my doctor appointment Tuesday on the train (I'm fine; more on that later) and my iPhone detected a nearby wireless network. You wouldn't believe its name. Want to know? I'll tell you: Someone out there created a wireless network titled, "NukeTheUnbornGay." I was aghast at the sheer hatred behind this. Other than it already being a password protected secure network, was the name just a deterrent so no one would attempt to use it, or a genuine statement made by an unfathomably misguided and deeply abhorrent individual? There's no point getting upset about it, but it did make me think about the world we live in...

I'll never know the real motivation behind that and don't care to know, really. But the fact remains, there are lots of people out there with gallons of Haterade at the ready to throw on anyone's life parade. Good thing fabulosity doubles as a great life-affirming stain remover! #winning

MOVEMBER!

2011-11-08T09:20:00.002-05:00

Yesterday, I was asked by a coworker to join his Movember Team. What's that you ask? I didn't know much about it either; I'd heard mentions of it last week in a meeting. But as it is for a good cause, I'm giving it a go!

If you'd like to support me, donate here: http://mobro.co/jway

True Classic!

2011-11-01T15:25:00.000-04:00

I just finished viewing the first season of Downton Abbey. What a great show it is; I enjoy the plots and the intriguing characters! It reminds me of my years in England. My desire to revisit Europe has been stirred once again.

Let the Good Carves Roll

2011-10-25T08:15:00.001-04:00

Last night's pumpkin carving at Lindsay and Albert's was such fun and I met some of their friends. Here are our finished Jack-O-Lanterns on the front porch of their building.

The Nodes Know

2011-10-23T01:30:00.001-04:00

I'm feeling better. I'm not ill, but something was off. The left side of my neck, right behind and slightly below my left ear, had swollen lymph nodes. It was tight and hard (and not in a good way). Though I felt fine in general, I knew it was the sign of some kind of infection; that's the only time lymph nodes usually swell up. For a brief moment, I thought it was indicative of something more serious (like cancer), but that passed as I know my health is quite good. The swelling is not completely gone, but it certainly has subsided and causes less discomfort. Whatever my body is up to, I trust it to rebalance and heal on its own with good rest, nutrition and hydration.

In the past, I've had swollen lymph nodes under my left arm when I was sick (it ached whenever I coughed or moved a certain way), but never on my neck before; and never when I wasn't feeling sick. If it persisted, I was going to see a doc for sure. Either way, I still need to get my annual checkup and that means finding a regular doctor soon.

Nice & Nifty Neighbors!

2011-10-23T01:10:00.000-04:00

After work yesterday, I spent some time with my friend and coworker, Chris D. He invited me to join him on the way to his friend Albert's house, who happens to be my neighbor in Jamaica Plain (Yay!). Albert is adorable (Totes cute. Does he have a brother?) and so is his wife, Lindsay (Told her she reminds me of actress Jennifer Carpenter). They invited me to join them for pumpkin carving on Monday! How wonderful it is to meet one's neighbors AND be invited back for a seasonal festivity!

Chris' identical twin bro, Dan, was there plus two mutual friends of theirs whom I met before at the brothers' most recent band performance in August. We chillaxed in the living room watching the World Series. I don't really give a fig about baseball, but am always up for hanging out with new friends and neighbors regardless of the reason. Besides, after attending my first Red Sox game in August, I'm starting to like baseball more. I never disliked it, just didn't pay attention to it.

Albert and Lindsay's place is fab with great paint colors, self-made illustrations, Asian decor and lush houseplants (impressive) and they have two cutey cats. Albert showed me one of his photo albums from the 18 months he lived and worked in Taiwan. I think Albert's a Cancer (or Cancer rising), he's a great host with a comfy home. I'm not sure of Lindsay's sign yet, she arrived later because she worked. I'll get a better idea when I spend more time with her on Monday. I'm so happy they're fun and friendly people only a couple blocks away!

90th Day

2011-10-10T21:41:00.001-04:00

I relocated to Boston on July 10. I'm a quarter of the way through my first year here!

New Looks x 3

2011-10-08T23:49:00.000-04:00

Made some changes; all three of my blogs have new looks. Take a peek.

Meeting Kristen

2011-10-08T22:58:00.000-04:00

Staying in tonight. Just a quite evening at home with Britni. At some point, Ben will arrive, as he's on his way home from work.

I went out last night with Hannah after work (she beat me at Canasta again) and later Matt and his sister, Kristen joined us at 1369 Coffee House (as pictured) on Cambridge St. Matt was in town from NYC spending the past week at their family house in Cape Cod. The four of us dined at one of my new fave restaurants, which is also on Cambridge St.

Hannah bailed after dinner (she thinks the bro/sis duo are adorable) to leave Kristen, Matt and me to catch up and find something to do. After a long search for a parking spot, we walked around Central Square and Harvard Square a while because every place was packed with Friday night crowds. Eventually, stopping at Green Street Grill for a drink, we managed to get a table.

I'm glad I finally met Matt's sister. We got along famously as he predicted. She lives locally again since completing her education at UC Berkeley. Kristen graciously drove me home and I bid the two adieu for now.

Big Apple Visit For "The Chew"

2011-10-02T01:00:00.000-04:00

I visited New York for a few days earlier this week. It was nice spending time with some friends and attend the Wednesday, September 28 taping of ABC's new show, "The Chew."

I was invited by Tarah to join her and Daniella. We sat in the fourth row. I'm wearing a red shirt and grey vest and appear quite a few times.

Watch the full episode here, while it lasts. I don't know how much content they'll keep on their web site or for how long.

Dinner & Games

2011-10-02T00:30:00.000-04:00

I've been to a few parties, both of the housewarming and birthday variety.

I've been gardening quite a bit too. That's always a rewarding treat. Though I've come across things in the ground that I wish could have stayed buried, or just weren't there in the first place, really.

Dinner with coworkers have been pleasant, as was a recent trivia game with Charlotte, Dan and Gordon at a venue in Somerville.

Wednesday, September 21 was my first real poker game. I'm still learning, but Sean, Toby, Anthony, Austin, Travis and Devin were cool about it.

Friends To Know & Ways To Grow

2011-09-03T12:02:00.000-04:00

Been cocoa chillin'. Thursday, I went to my friend Nick Siemaska's "soft opening" for Room 68, his furniture and design gallery. Eric Portnoy and Brent Refsland round out this creative triumvirate which creates a haven for new talent and innovative artistry within Jamaica Plain and potentially more of Boston.

The opening undoubtedly makes a splash as one of the highlights of Jamaica Plain's "First Thursday" which is celebrated from 6 p.m. - 8 p.m. with food, music, shopping, and art, at over thirty businesses on Centre and South Streets. These take place on the first Thursdays of the month from May to September.

As you can see from the photo, new pal and fellow Aquarian birthday boy (I'm a little older), Garet and I enjoyed experiencing the artwork. Garet is also a creative champion as a working artist and recent graduate of MassArt. Visit his web site here. I'm bummed he's moving back to Cali soon, but we'll K.I.T. for sure.

Meeting new people is always on my to-do list. Thanks to the gallery opening I may add Matt, Emma and Henry to my list of new people to hang with.

Friday, after work was a birthday gathering for coworker and sweetie pie Sean at Atwood's. Then, I was off to dinner with Carolyn, Dan, Linda and their friend Brenda at Buddah Chen, one of my most fave places in Brookline near Coolidge Corner.

Afterward, I made my first visit to CJ's house for games with Dan G., Charlotte M., Jason B., Travis R., Stephen D. and Andy K. We played Catch Phrase and my team won the most rounds!

I took the bus and got home after midnight. I watched the first episode of some strange anime series with Garet (he picked it) before going to bed.

Now it's Saturday and I have another day of fun ahead of me!

"That's Really Stupid."

2011-08-27T12:56:00.000-04:00

Hanes is on a roll with these amusing cutesy commercials. The mom cracks me up in this one.

"Robin, You Okay? Whatcha doin'?"

2011-08-27T12:54:00.000-04:00

It tickles me the way Leslie says, "Whatcha doin'?" in this commercial.

Okay? Cupid?

2011-08-23T01:00:00.000-04:00

My date this past Friday wasn't bad. In this case I'm only interested in being friends, so nothing else to report on that.

Of course, I always want romance in my life. Since, what you think about you bring about, I'd like to get started on the right track. I'm thinking...

Take It Outside—Get Yo' Drink On!

2011-08-22T09:52:00.000-04:00

Another blog requiring your attention is, Outdoordrinking.com. It's especially appropriate when read outdoors—drinking of course! Ben & Co. including special correspondent, Britni (with a totes fab blog all her own) will bring it to you with the remarkable wit, intelligence and good taste in their repertoire.

Though not a drinker myself, this is all about great people having a good time. I support that, and them; B&B are the most darling people I've met since moving to Boston. So, raise ya cup and sip it up (or chug it down, if that works for you)!

Talking Tumblr

2011-08-22T01:37:00.000-04:00

I like Tumblr's blog layouts and simple chic formatting, but I've noticed many of the ones I've seen are all photos with little to no written content.

Newsflash, I just remembered I'm smart; so, I just Googled Tumblr and thanks to Wikiepedia, learned this:

Tumblr, sometimes styled as tumblr., is a microblogging platform that allows users to post text, images, videos, links, quotes and audio to their tumblelog, a short-form blog. Users can follow other users, or choose to make their tumblelog private. The service emphasizes ease of use.

Of course, it all makes sense now. Microblogging, eh? Not that I'm complaining, because I've seen some very eye-catching imagery thanks to Supreme and Rich White People; two blogs I stumbled upon Saturday after visiting the colorful blog for local band The 327s, which does have some written content and few photos. Hmmmm....

Plucked From the Internet's Navel: "The Tragedy of Lint"

2011-08-22T00:45:00.002-04:00

Matt's finally going to give blogging a go again, no more half-a$$ing like before. He got off to a modest start with The Tragedy of Lint in 2009, but a writer has to, well, write—if relevance is among their list of priorities. One's writing skills also stay sharp this way too.

I assigned him to post at least one thing by this Wednesday, August 24. Which coincidentally, unbeknownst to me when I gave the assignment over the phone about an hour ago, is the exact date of the blog's debut entry two years ago.

In a snarky, yet supportive way, I got on his case again because that's what I do. As a staunch supporter for success with all those I care about, I know this will be a fruitful endeavor for him if he buckles down and commits to producing great content for readers like you and me. He has yet to find his "voice" in the blogosphere, but I am sure he will navigate these new waters with ease given enough time and consistent effort.

The J Way endorses The Tragedy of Lint and encourages you to see what comes next. I know he won't disappoint me now that I've publicly promoted his new venture! Yay!

Need a Lift?

2011-08-20T17:09:00.000-04:00

I don't care how much gas costs... I'd take a ride in this car; charge it!

Is This For Real?

2011-08-20T14:57:00.000-04:00

Very surprised and shocked as I just came to learn something moments ago via this post.

All In the Cards

2011-08-18T00:53:00.000-04:00

Monday, after work, Hannah took me to Inman Square. There, I discovered the fantastic Boutique Fabulous; that's exactly what it is. I fell in love with the place instantly. So many great gifts—for yourself—oh, and you can pick up some things for other people too if you want (*giggle*). We also visited a nearby bookstore, then to dinner.

Later, across the street from our place of dining, Hannah proceeded to teach me how to play Canasta as I sipped my soy chai latte in the chill 1369 Coffee House. She had tea. She won despite my short streak of beginner's luck a couple rounds.

Tuesday, I was invited to attend my first Red Sox game! I went with Charlotte, Catherine & Dan after work and dinner with them. The Sox didn't win, but it was still fun to be there. Afterward, we went to Eastern Standard; I stayed a bit before going home. The three of them stayed a while longer.

Wednesday after work, a large group of us went to Atwood's; a popular hangout with a good vibe. Their outdoor back patio is supes cute.

Today, I plan to come home and rest. I don't want to be out and about every day of the week like I was in New York. It is too easy to get behind on chores and personal projects when you're socializing all the livelong day. Friday, I may have a coffee date. We'll see...

I'm up way too late (again). Sleep now.

Escape From Waterworld!

2011-08-14T21:43:00.000-04:00

I just narrowly escaped a messy accident upon arriving home. Out for a leisurely stroll, exploring Jamaica Plain and getting lost on these lovely streets with gorgeous homes, I knew at some point I'd have to relieve myself. Finding no opportunity to utilize any facilities, the pressure gradually built up. I got lost too. Just at the right time, I found my way home before my bladder burst. Thank heavens no one saw me rush in, drop my things and scram for the bathroom; a second longer and I would have drenched myself. *Whew*

Earlier, on Centre St., the main drag in this area, this lady in her car with friends/family outside next to her, pointed at me and said, "You walk fast!" I suppose she saw me at some point on my stroll. I do move pretty quickly when I walk; it was nice of her to notice me. I wish more of the guys here noticed me.

I was at Ula Cafe today too, before they closed. I think 7pm is way too early, but this is a quiet community so not many late night spots. My Grandma called while I was there writing. She's pissed I haven't written yet with my new address. Oops. Sorry, Grandma.

Before my excretory system reached critical mass, I marveled at the size and stature of so many homes around here. They're not mansions, but many of these houses are BIG and so pretty. I would have stopped to photograph some if I weren't in a hurry to get home.

Seeing these picturesque residences inspire me. I want a gracious home, beautifully landscaped gardens (courtesy of yours truly) and a wholesome, decent man to rule over it with me. Today, I felt it was really possible, because of my newness here, I believe I can have it all. Well, even if I'd lived here for a year already, I can always still have it all, the possibilities are never-ending, but you know what I mean.

"Dude" Is Relaxing Today

2011-08-14T18:29:00.000-04:00

I've had an active past few days. So, today, I rested.

Friday, there was a farewell gathering for a longtime employee at my company. The celebration was out on the patio at Atwood's. I like how my new work colleagues socialize regularly outside of the office.

Afterward, some of us headed over to The Independent. I headed out around 11pm since the T (aka subway) stops running around midnight. I don't mind it that much. It keeps me from staying out too late. I do miss the convenience of NYC's 24-hour subway system though. However, I'm loving the much more affordable monthly passes. Instead of $104 a month for an unlimited pass there, it's $59 here.

Saturday, I helped Sean move to his new place, along with his girlfriend, Christa and pals Lonn and Toby. It was kind of a mess, and took much longer than anyone anticipated, but we made it through. When it was all over, Sean took us to dinner (minus Lonn, who bailed around 1o'clock or so) at a place none of us visited before, Spice & Rice. Everyone enjoyed their meal.

Last night, I attended Mike and his roommate Jack's Housewarming Party with Britni. I met some new people of course and became familiar with an area of Boston previously unknown to me.

Today, Ben and I watched The Big Lebowski, "dude." He's seen it multiple times; I'd never seen it, and everyone raves how good it is. I found it an odd and quirky movie, but it was okay. It would have had more of an impact upon me had I seen it when it was first released in 1998.

After that, Ben got me to watch Dexter. Now I'm interested. I knew I'd be intrigued once I saw it, which is why I avoided watching it for so long. But Ben has Apple TV and all five seasons, so I can marathon it.

More Z-Time

2011-08-11T23:14:00.000-04:00

Another pleasant day. I am tired though. I need to rest. I wake up early and without an alarm everyday. The sooner I get to sleep, the better.

Good night...

Crushed and Smashed

2011-08-10T23:59:00.005-04:00

Today marks my first month in Boston! July 10, 2011 was when I started my new life here. August 10 was a good day.

I must confess, I have crushes. I just can't take it; but I have to, so I will. Since my seat gives me the best vantage point in my area of comings and goings all day long, I see everyone.

One of the most handsome men (he could be a model, if he already wasn't as a child or teen) walks around day to day and I just can't believe how good he looks. He's really pleasant and polite too. He's a— I almost revealed his zodiac sign, but that would give too much away, damn it! Thankfully, he works in a department other than mine.

He just makes me melt. Every time I see him, I have to stop and watch; I'm mesmerized. The few times we've spoken, I can't look him in his eyes because I can't concentrate on what I'm saying or supposed to say in response to his inquiries! I'm not in love with him; that's just ridiculous. But I like him A LOT. We don't have much in common though and he's a fairly quiet and reserved fellow. I'm sure he has a girlfriend, so it's pretty much a lost cause, unless he'd want me to be one of his dirty little secrets (Kidding... Well, maybe).

Today, as I passed him at the door to my department, he said, "Hey, Jason." I was suddenly awash with the momentary bliss of a rosy glow. I didn't even know he remembered my name!

That's all for now, but I'm sure I'll have more to say on him and the others (yes, there are more) another time.

Tranquil Tuesday

2011-08-09T22:58:00.001-04:00

I'm so glad I took today off work. I needed it. It was great to sleep later than usual and chillax most of the day.

Ben and I watched 9th Company, this intense film about the Soviet War in Afghanistan, loosely based on actual events from the late 80s.

Later, I went to Restaurant Depot with Ben & Britni; that was fun. They stocked up on food. Then they took me to the Harvest Co-Op, where I bought some groceries too. Great prices!

I did laundry. It was very necessary. I wasn't down to the last of clean clothes, but things were piling up and I didn't want it to get out of control. Those days are over.

The three of us dined at the kitchen table and enjoyed pleasant conversation this evening. B&B are savvy and intelligent people, well on their way to becoming a Boston power couple.

Britni suggested two blogs to me, Tom & Lorenzo and gala darling. I like both of them! Ben also showed me Archer; it's a humorous animated series.

I wish I could stay in and do all this again and more tomorrow. But it's back to work instead...

Two Things I Need. Right Now.

2011-08-08T23:51:00.007-04:00

A bike and a man. Not necessarily in that order. If one leads to the other, even better. There really is no need for further explanation.

So, moving on... work was slow today. I've noticed work days tend to go by at a glacial pace more often than not. My office setting is very pleasant and I like the people for sure, but daily tasks seem to linger and the clock seems to take a break.

But as everyone knows, things move faster in New York; it's just the way it is. I like the slower pace here, but not when I'm at my desk, damn it! Obviously, there is no real difference in the time; only my perception of it has changed.

It's been raining a lot. Yesterday and today had some heavy showers. Thankfully, I was indoors and completely unaffected.

My facial hair seems to grow faster here. I was thinking yesterday: Does living further up north make hair grow faster? Plus, facial hair appears to be de rigueur up here. I'd venture to say seven out of every 10 men have some time of beard, moustache or 5 o'clock shadow. Clean shaven faces are less common. I'm generalizing, but it's what I've noticed. So, maybe that's why more guys are sporting facial hair, because it grows back faster in northern latitudes? I dunno.

Oh, and tattoos are even more common because I see lots of gurls brandishing them too along with the guys! I'm all for female empowerment; these vixens can and will do what they like. I find it intriguing to see the estrogenic side of the population here so into inking up.

My neighborhood, Jamaica Plain, is rich with diversity and community solidarity. Tonight, I visited the Harvest Co-op for the first time. I'd passed it on one of my long walks a couple weeks ago. But this time I went inside and browsed. I liked their offerings AND their prices.

Well, you know I have lots of things I adore about Boston. And you know I'm pretty progressive myself, being into the natural and organic scene. You can call me "granola" if you like (just not to my face).

But you can't keep a good bitch down, so you know I'll find something to rant about. One thing that has vexed here me is the prevalence of the word, "man." Virtually every "man" says it all the time. Guys generally don't use first names. If you greet just about any male fellow, you don't hear "Good morning," or "Hi," or "Hello, [your name here]." The typical response you get is, "Hey, man!" Guys at work say it all the time. Um, excuse me, this "man" has a name! Use it! I believe in the power of proper nouns, thenx.

I mentioned this to Toby, one of my coworkers, a couple weeks ago. Now, he goes out his way to tease me and say, "Hey, man!" upon greeting me. It's okay. I know he's being playful, so I let it slide.

Bend. Crack. Break.

2011-08-07T21:04:00.001-04:00

Fail. I stopped my Master Cleanse today. I know I'm capable of doing it, but I chose to discontinue; I ate vegetable soup for lunch.

I'm already thin and I noticed my clothes looking and feeling a bit looser on me as I gazed upon myself in the large restroom mirror at work. I did not do this to lose weight. I knew some pounds would be shed, but I feel to complete the recommended days for the cleanse would leave me skinner than I'm comfortable with.

As a longtime vegan, my body is quite healthy. Sure, I could use some improvement and I would have benefited from deeper internal cleansing, but I'd rather do it when I have scheduled time off from work.

Anyway, it doesn't mean I'll never do it again; I will. But now isn't an ideal time. Katie has more serious reasons for her cleanse and a fully support her seeing it through.

I'll keep it on the light side with soups, juices, smoothies, fresh fruits, vegetables, salads etc. for a while. I have learned to be more conscious about what I select to eat.

Day 2.

2011-08-07T00:00:00.001-04:00

Saturday morning I awoke feeling lighter, cleaner and clearer. My mood has been calm. The Master Cleanse is good so far. Only people's comments and questioning have proven a challenge to address.

I did think about food more today. Not the physical need for it, but the psychological attachment to it. I tend to eat when I'm bored, stressed or excited about something.

My friend Mark is visiting from NYC this weekend. He staying with his BFF in Somerville. I'm glad I got to see him today; he showed me around to some Boston places I'd not seen yet.

Day 1.

2011-08-05T21:20:00.000-04:00

Today went well. So far, my Master Cleanse has been uneventful. I had a little gas, a headache so mild it passed soon after noticing it and some drowsiness, but that's nothing unusual (I was up late yesterday into today). I also walked over four miles; I downloaded an app. this afternoon that tracks my time and distance.

I checked in with Katie and she's fine. I'm going to keep reading about the cleanse to stay focused and motivated to really get my system on a higher level. How much time and attention we put on food becomes more apparent when you're temporarily not consuming it.

I'm not staying up too late. Good rest is helpful to cleansing. I have had thoughts of food, but no pangs of hunger. My sense of smell is stronger. I noticed during my visit to LUSH today. Not much else to report since it is only Day 1.

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Cleaning House—On a Cellular Level

2011-08-05T01:19:00.000-04:00

I've done it before and I'm going to do it again. This time, the goal is to complete all 10 days on the Master Cleanse. Say what you will, be a lover or a hater, but I did not suffer any negative consequences.

It's also not smart to knock down on something you've not taken the time to learn about. Either way, it makes no difference to me, as it's my body and my choice to do this. I am fully capable of handling myself and my health, thank you.

Make sure you're doing it for reasons that are right and clear for you emotionally and spiritually too. If you have an eating disorder, please seek professional help or counseling before making more changes to your consumption habits.

Last time, I made it through three days. The reason I stopped? I wasn't fully prepared; I wanted something to chew on. I missed the sensation of food in my mouth, even though I wasn't physically hungry; I wasn't starving or wasting away.

It is also better if you're not stressed when doing a cleanse, because that can make you crave comfort foods even more. Emotional eaters can benefit from the break a cleanse offers. So, when you do start eating solid food again, you're prone to making better eating choices.

I'm not looking to lose weight or fit in to a certain pair of designer jeans. I just know that my body can use a change. The cleanse is a reset, if you will, that will allow my systems to realign and equalize.

What will help now is the fact I am doing this with a friend. Katie expressed interest in it and together we'll clean our bodies—and our lives—inside and out.

I'll document much of the journey here. Stay with me, one can never have too much support!

So Glad This Never Happened To Me

2011-08-04T23:12:00.000-04:00

Thanks to Katie for sharing this! Ha haaaaa!

The Saga Continues To Continue

2011-08-03T23:13:00.001-04:00

I just finished watching today's episode of Y&R. I needed an escape, so I watched my favorite scripted drama to take a break from the real drama in my life. Just as things were settling down, I got all stirred up!

I had two conversations today. In one, a major revelation was made to me and now I am processing the ramifications of it. With the other there are lingering unresolved issues related to my departure from New York, which has strained a longtime friendship.

I know things will work out at some point, but right now I just want to rest.

Sunday People: "Swing With Me"

2011-08-03T01:33:00.000-04:00

Wants & Needs, Roots From Seeds

2011-08-03T01:28:00.000-04:00

As Martha, America's first and only self-made icon of fine living, celebrates her 70th year today, I'm thinking about the "recipe" for the new life I'm creating every moment of every day. I want a fine life too, and damn it, I'll see to it that I get it! Boston is fantastic and I am utterly delighted to be here. I enjoy the people I work with and the new friendships I am cultivating in their early stages.

My current city is much smaller of course, but I embrace that. The new sights and historical gems of this place are quaint and utterly charming. Though I've become a memory to New York, I am a vision of radiant possibility for Boston. What is next for me here? It is too soon to tell. There is still much to do.

Before becoming a darling of the city's social scene, solidifying my personal fortitude and becoming familiar with my surroundings as much as possible is a priority. Taking things one day at a time is the best I can do. Of course, some planning will prove beneficial, but I don't want to get too ahead of myself. Being overwhelmed is not where I want to be; I've been there before, I'll pass this time.

Also, though I do not want to rush into anything (I haven't lived here a month yet!), I've been thinking what it would be like to have a main squeeze. At this point, friendship is more important than a romance, but that doesn't mean I don't want one. So many new and highly attractive people cross my path and catch my eye these days. What's a new boy to do? Keep it moving, because I don't need the distraction right now.

Although my outward modesty and conservatism mask an unequivocally intense, concupiscent and sensual proclivity, I have to cool my jets. Passionate heat beyond a multitude of suns burns within, yet I'm too good to be tempted by random sin.

All things have their time and place. Time doesn't run according to our plans. Without my former obligations to always be out and about, I have time for more personal pursuits. I've taken long walks alone to explore neighborhoods, done more reading and found peaceful ways to enjoy my inner musings. Some of these musings I share with you, some I have to edit out since this is the Information Age and I can't tell you everything, even if I wanted to.

Anyway, when you know what you want, it is much easier to get what you want. Everything that's meant to happen, eventually does...

All "Good Things" for Martha Today!

2011-08-03T00:22:00.000-04:00

A very good morning and Happy 70th Birthday to Martha Stewart! Thank you for the information, innovation and inspiration all these years.

Love & hugs,
J

Food Inc.:Know How You're Getting "Gutted" and Fight Back!

2011-07-28T22:36:00.000-04:00

I just saw Food Inc. with Britni. Wow. Wow. Wow. It is eye-opening and in some ways frightening how less than five companies have more collective power than any of us can imagine. The food industry in this country is very corrupt and if everyone knew how it affects them, our societal choices would be much different indeed.

We as consumers are the ones that have the power to choose. Use it! Food Inc. is a documenatry that everyone in America has to see!

Newness Abounds!

2011-07-23T02:10:00.002-04:00

Things are going well. I feel good and awake each day with a sense of excitement and eagerness to see what is next on the horizon.

I've already met new people, mostly at work, but outside of the office too. Wednesday, I met one of my new friends at Life Alive, a splendidly fantastic eatery with delicious organic and natural food. This place ranks high on my list of venues to eat without a doubt!

For my first visit, I had the very tasty Green Goddess entree, which is their "Ginger Nama Shoyu Sauce enhanced by flax oil and garlic, empowering avocado (seasonal), broccoli, dark greens, and tofu. All are served over short-grain brown rice." I also had the super delish vegan Lust Alive Smoothie, which consists of "Strawberry, Banana, Candied Ginger, Cinnamon, Cocoa, Ice Cream*, and Rice Milk." It's "a new addition to [their] smoothie menu... delicious, desirable, sensual and salacious!"

So far, Boston, Cambridge and Somerville are great! I am really glad I made this refreshing life change, and it's is only the beginning. I strongly sense the beginning of many wonderful things to come my way.

Lessons Learned

2011-07-19T01:00:00.002-04:00

I am thrilled with my new New England life. It is a most welcome change, and I am very happy here. However, at this point in time it is bittersweet. My former life in New York did not end on the high note I hoped it would, and it is gnawing at my spirit.

Though I am not responsible for the deeds (or inaction) of others, I do realize I could have handled my situation better than I did. To say moving is stressful is a major understatement. My mind was foggy, I was forgetful and had difficulty focusing on relevant tasks. Add to this the expectations others had of me, and the chances for a mishap were enhanced. I did do my best to end things well, but my efforts were not favorably received by those with more power than I alone possess. In turn, others were negatively impacted and it was beyond my control.

I never set out to cause harm to others. My intentions are always well-placed, but that does not always mean they will be interpreted that way. Listen to me, dear readers: Communication is key to any relationship or interpersonal interaction, be it personal, business or any degree in between. Do not allow fear, shame or embarrassment to inhibit yourself or others; speak up. Moving forward, I am clear and direct in my self-assertions. It is the best and only way to ensure my intentions are known and understood.

Time heals wounds, and as the calendar continues, these days will be replaced by new ones. Only time will tell if the damage can be repaired. All I can do now is continue forward and hope for the best.

I have a new chapter to write for myself and my life. I'm ready to start the next line...

De Novo

2011-07-11T22:10:00.000-04:00

Everything new began yesterday...

Black Male Vegetarians: Yes, They Exist | Frugivore Magazine

2011-07-10T19:23:00.001-04:00

My friend (and former coworker years ago), Anne, shared this article with me titled: Black Male Vegetarians: Yes, They Exist | Frugivore Magazine. I am glad to see more information about this out in the world!

We need more vegetarians from all walks of life, as diverse as the people of this world.

Independent Fun

2011-07-05T02:48:00.002-04:00

Although I was invited to three Independence Day parties yesterday, I only managed to attend one. I don't party hop the way I once did. Sometimes, I get settled and just want to stay put. Plus, one of my main gal pals, Melissa invited me and I hadn't seen her in some time.

Although, I did reach out via text message to confirm if the other two parties were going strong. One response alluded that things were winding down, the other didn't respond at all which most likely meant he was too drunk to care. No big, it all worked out.

I took great photos from the rooftop, where this Lower East Side party took place. I don't know where that cord is that transfers photos to my computer, so you're just going to have wait on that (shown here is one Melissa took with her iPhone and posted to Facebook). Familiar faces (Adam, Alex and Ricky) and meeting new people were party highlights. Cassandra is the most delightful host and her friend Andrea is a consummate darling.

One thing I did particularly enjoy were the refreshments. Fresh blueberries, carrot sticks and my personal favorite, watermelon chunks. YUM and so refreshing! This reminds me as summer often does, to get back to basics. Fresh, natural and wholesome foods always make me look and feel my absolute best. It's really one of the only ways I can keep turning it out and stay fierce year after year...

Super 8

2011-07-02T23:31:00.000-04:00

I saw Super 8 tonight with friends. I liked it more than I thought I would; it was entertaining. Though, I can't help but question the whole "going home" theme that appears in alien-themed movies Spielberg has already worked on or contributed to.

The kids are cute and intelligent, but I think some multi-ethnicity within the lead roles would have been beneficial.

I'd watch it again, but not in the theater with today's ticket prices. Unless a friend (or date) were treating.

Hello From Cambridge!

2011-07-02T10:38:00.000-04:00

I'm having a fantast time in sunny Cambridge this weekend. My bus arriving later than scheduled yesterday didn't put a damper on my plans.

Carolyn is sewing up a new handbag for her friend; her cutey doggy, Luca is sleeping; and I'm just relaxing. Dan is out playing golf, but he'll be back later.

It's going to be a lovely day.

"How Do I Look?"

2011-07-01T00:00:00.000-04:00

Finally. Wednesday night, after all these years, at long last I have seen Breakfast at Tiffany's. I enjoyed it and understand why it is such a classic piece of our cinema history.

I thought the cat was adorably cute too...

Kardea Nutrtion: "Take a Healthy Bite Out of Life"

2011-06-28T00:50:00.000-04:00

A long time ago... Hold on, let me see if I can find the date... Ah, there; found the old e-mail conversation from September 14, 2008 from Rob Leighton when he first told me about his Kardea nutrition bars.

He sent me samples and l liked them; especially the Chai Spice and Cranberry Almond flavors. I completely dropped the ball and forgot to say anything about it! On December 29, 2008 I wrote this to him via Facebook after he "friended" me around that time):

Hi Robert,
Forgive me, please. First, thank you reaching out those months ago.
There was a breakdown in communication and I left you hanging. I did receive the package you sent and thank you again for it. I also still plan to do a write-up on my blog regarding your product.
Warm regards and good cheer in the coming New Year,Jason

I saved the individually wrapped packaging from the flavors I liked so I could refer to them (just found one of them now, hence finally prompting this very delayed post). Up until now, I occasionally thought about what to say and then still managed to fall short and forget.

Rob, I extend my most sincere apologies to you. I did enjoy and appreciate your product samples. I also hope one day you can create a raw vegan nutrition bar packed with enzymes and more natural, wholesome goodness. Your web site looks great and I'm glad to see your business continues to thrive!

Best thoughts and good health,
Jason Atkins

Ed Shepp's Quick Audio Blerplet for Jason

2011-06-27T23:53:00.003-04:00

I love my friends. Today, I especially love the incomparable, illustrious and immensely individualistic Ed Shepp for his recent sensational sound creation!

This morning, he posted A Quick Audio Blerplet for Jason in honor of my Twitter account name and I think it's fantast!!! Tack så mycket, ED!

Happy Bionic Birthday, Lindsay Wagner!

2011-06-22T17:57:00.007-04:00

Lindsay Wagner, one of my ultimate TV stars from childhood, is 62 today!

As Jamie Sommers, The Bionic Woman rules as one of my most favorite of all heroines. I still enjoy the show immensely. That reminds me, I must get the series on DVD!

In this classic scene, the Fembots (not human) try to take Jamie down, but she manages to escape. Unfortunately, Jamie still goes down (temporarily) in the process. Of course by the end of the two-part episode, she comes back and saves the day!

Happy Birthday, Lindsay and thank you!

Full Friday, Saturday & Sunday

2011-06-19T00:58:00.000-04:00

Friday, I opened a checking and savings account with Bank of America. I'd been meaning to do it for a variety of reasons, primarily because I like the "Keep the Change" savings plan they have. Plus, they have more nationwide coverage than Chase does (I'm kind of over them too; I was livid when they bought Washington Mutual). I like opening accounts and finding new ways to grow my money.

Also, did you know with Bank of America, you can visit participating museums free on the first full weekend of each month? Isn't that special?

I also paid bills, ordered gifts, donated clothes to the Salvation Army, did laundry and threw out old things around the house and cleaned the bathroom. I was up late until after midnight. I also repotted an old Peace Lily I inherited from my office back when it was on W. 24th Street in Chelsea. It was a productive day.

I worked all day Saturday, so there's nothing to tell about that... I have a long Sunday ahead of me too!

Whirlwind

2011-06-09T22:30:00.001-04:00

Hey J-bells,

I've been in such a whirlwind of activity; making plans and sorting things out personally and professionally. I am somewhat stressed, but keep reminding myself to stay calm and focused. I have SO much to do!

I'm making a trip to Boston this weekend. I'm looking forward to spending time with my old friend, Carolyn, her husband Dan and their darling dog, Luca.

See you soon...

"Life In A Northern Town"...

2011-06-02T23:40:00.002-04:00

A True End of an Era

2011-05-25T23:46:00.000-04:00

Oprah bid us farewell today. My wish is that her tomorrows continue to be as bright as she made ours over the past 25 years. Thank you, O.

Still Here, But Over There

2011-05-10T13:36:00.000-04:00

I know I haven't written in a while. I've been on the go, out and about; you know how it is...

Presently, I'm in Astoria again this week, watching doggy dawg Buddy for my dear friend Emily. Time at their house is kind of like a staycation.

Say NO To GMO!

2011-04-29T12:20:00.003-04:00

Greetings! I'm writing to you live from Fairfield, CT! I attended a highly informative and eye-opening lecture on GMO foods by Jeffrey Smith last night with my dear friend Tony. I learned quite a lot and plan to share it here soon.

Eric joined us afterward and we ate NON-GMO food before heading back to their house. Their precious dog, Casey, was happy to see me again.

It's lovely outside today. Just wanted to say hello and I'll be back soon.

Oh, and Happy Wedding Day to Kate & William!

Boston Bound!

2011-04-21T00:14:00.000-04:00

Today, I make my first visit to Boston! I'm going with Jessica and it's going to be amazing!

Super Savers' Secrets

2011-04-20T22:52:00.000-04:00

Save and win big with Secrets of Super Savers Revealed!

Numb3rs

2011-04-11T23:46:00.000-04:00

Connecticut was great; I did some gardening in Eric & Tony's front yard too! Their dog, Casey is a precious West Highland Terrier. I had a wonderful time. Love them!

Guess what? I recently received this interesting e-mail from a friend:

Check this out:
This year we are going to experience four unusual dates: 1/1/11, 1/11/11, 11/1/11, 11/11/11, and that's not all;

Take the last two digits of the year you were born and the age you will be this year and the result will add up to 111 for everyone!!!! This is the year of MONEY.

Also, this year, October will have 5 Sundays, 5 Mondays & 5 Saturdays. This happens only once every 823 years. These particular years are known as Moneybag years...

Nifty, huh?